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Peace, peace, everyone. It's your girl, Skoya Blue. Hope everybody's doing all right.
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We are ending. This is the last day of January. So to me, January went by fast.
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A lot of people said it went by too slow.
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But I mean, went by fast to me because there's so much to do with so little
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time and there's so much going on in the world. So, I mean, we're in crazy times.
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So just stay positive out there and keep your head on the swivel.
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That's all I got to say because these times are, we don't know what's going
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to happen next four or five years.
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So just try to stay positive as much as you can.
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But, and that's a good segue to talk about how ignorance is bliss.
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Like, it's crazy because there's a lot of people that don't even know what's
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going on in the world right now. They don't know about the news and stuff.
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And I think it's cool to be in bliss, a state of not knowing anything and being
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in this different world. But I think you need a mix of both.
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Because if you don't know anything, how are you going to be ready?
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And you have to stay ready so you don't have to get ready. And if you don't
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know what's coming, then what do you do?
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And, you know, when I was in my early 20s, I used to think everybody just knew things.
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Everybody just knew everything, you know.
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And as I've gotten older, I've realized a lot of people don't know what the heck is going on.
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And the other day, it wasn't yesterday, I just watched a video of this young
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lady that graduated from Harvard named Sharithi Kumar.
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And she was talking about, you know, there's power in not knowing,
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you know, because you can figure it out.
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Basically, like, you know, she said when her parents, when she moved to,
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well, she lived in Nebraska with her parents and she was trying to go to college.
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They were like, she didn't know how to apply for college enough.
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And her parents, she asked her parents, like, well, how do I apply for college
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and stuff? Like, what do I do? And he said, I don't know.
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And a lot of times a lot of people They'll say they don't know and don't look
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it up or maybe don't understand what they looked up And don't ask questions
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to understand it and I think we're in a time where.
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It's important to do the research and be kind of curious and be sort of nosy, if you will.
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Because if you're not, then it's causing us to not get better and grow.
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So that's why I had to do this show and talk about how ignorance is not really
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bliss, but it can be bliss.
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So first, let's unpack the phrase itself. Ignorance is bliss comes from a poem
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by Thomas Gray in 1742 and is stuck around for a reason.
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The idea is that sometimes not knowing something can spare us pain, stress, or anxiety.
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Think about it. When you were a kid, you probably didn't worry about bills,
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deadlines, or the state of the world.
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We just lived in the moment. That's the essence of this idea.
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Sometimes not knowing can feel like a gift.
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Now here's the thing when I was a kid I definitely was
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worried about stuff you know I don't know I was maybe before my time
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but I always was stressing about stuff because as a
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kid you I mean I was bullied I was picked on and also I was trying to do well
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in school I thought I had to get you know I'm trying to get good grades to go
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to college and stuff so I had different type of stress and some kids maybe did
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maybe they had a better situation where they were chilling and stuff like that
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but some kids was extremely stressed and rather be an adult at this point,
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um but it's still there's still some innocence when you're a kid though it's still like this,
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world like everything is at your your feet everything's anything could happen
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you know it's just this childlike innocence that that you know we all should keep you know as adults,
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so let's play devil's advocate for a minute is there a case to be made for ignorance,
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absolutely for example think about spoilers for your favorite tv show or movie
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do you really want to know the ending before you experience it?
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Probably not. That knowledge can ruin the excitement, the suspense, the emotional journey.
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Or consider relationships. Sometimes not knowing every little detail about your
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partner's past can actually help you focus on the present and build a stronger connection.
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That's true. I mean, in a relationship, sometimes you don't want to know about
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everything. I mean, because it
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might be like, oh, man, I got this prince charming or this perfect lady.
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And then you find out the truth. You're like, God dang. Now,
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for me personally, I want to know from the jump, like, what's going on with you?
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And that's why I created Dating Assassins. Shameless plug.
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Check it out, datingassassins.com. But that's why I created that for people
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that just don't got time to waste and want to know the truth.
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And then there's the big picture, the news. Let's be honest,
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the 24-7 news cycle can be overwhelming.
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Constant exposure to tragedy, conflict, and negativity can take a toll on our mental health.
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Sometimes stepping back and choosing not to know everything can be a form of self-care.
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Yes, I mean, I think there's times where, you know, you take a break from social media.
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I know for a minute, sometimes I take a break from it, like where I just don't
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look at anything for a few days because it's just too much going on.
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And it's not just about the news and what Trump's doing or what this congressperson
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doing or this country doing.
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It's sometimes just, you know, you see all these people doing stuff and you
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get overwhelmed like, oh, I need to be doing this. I need to be doing that.
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I mean, it's get caught up. Sometimes you got to follow your own journey.
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Of course, you got to focus on what you can do.
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And sometimes you get too hype when you're always trying to be in the know.
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So I think it's healthy to take a break and think things through, you know, so.
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But let's not get too carried away. Ignorance might feel good in the moment
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but it's not always the best long-term strategy.
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For one, ignorance can lead to poor decisions. If you don't know the risk of
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a situation, you might put yourself in danger without realizing it.
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Think about health. Ignoring symptoms or avoiding checkups might feel easier
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in the short one, short term, but it can have serious consequences down the line.
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And that's true because a lot of times people don't like to go to doctors and stuff.
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And I'm not saying I like to go to a doctor. I really don't.
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I just rather not, you know, but at the same time, I'd rather be ahead of the
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game than trying to catch up.
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You know what I mean? Like I'd rather know what's going on, get my blood work done.
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You know what I mean? Get everything checked. It's silly during these times
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because rather than or not, rather than research or not, there's a lot going on.
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There's a lot of things that viruses like COVID is not gone and never left,
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which COVID exacerbates what you already have going on look it up all these
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things are going on and so you want to make sure you know you're getting checked
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out and it's young people too it's not just oh this person's over 30 so they got to.
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Things have changed. You got to, kids got to go doctor regularly.
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20 year olds, if you're in 20s,
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you have to go because there's just more going on now than what it was.
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And it's important to just know what's going on so you can prevent it.
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So, and then there's the ethical side of things. Ignorance can be a way of avoiding responsibility.
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If we don't know about the suffering of others or the impact of our actions
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on the planet, it's easier to just justify doing nothing.
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But is that really the kind of world we want to live in? No,
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it's not. So where does that leave us? Is ignorance bliss or is knowledge power?
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I think the answer lies in the balance. There's a time and place for both.
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It's okay to protect your peace by stepping away from information overload.
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But it's also important to stay informed, to face the truths that matter,
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and to use that knowledge to make better choices for ourselves and the world around us.
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Maybe the real bliss isn't in ignorance itself, but in knowing when to seek
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knowledge and when to let go.
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So I do agree with that like having that balance is important and I think that,
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If we don't if we don't look up what we
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don't know Then we can't grow and I don't think it's good to depend on anybody
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neither because anybody could leave at any time So you do want to research like
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I was listening to a podcast where David Banner was talking about how he used
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to depend on a lot of producers and other people to do some work that he needed
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done with his music or other things.
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And he realized that some of the tasks he was giving to other people that he could learn himself.
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And he said a really good quote, you're a slave to what you don't know.
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You're a slave to what you don't know. And that caught me.
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I don't think that he means that we should do everything because that's just
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not, that's just impossible. Everybody can't do everything.
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But there's some things that you can do on your own in the meantime until you
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get to that level where you can afford somebody to help you.
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Or you can work in tandem with somebody because you have more knowledge instead
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of just putting it all on one person.
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So I think it's important to, it's better to know 30, 40% than knowing nothing
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at all of certain things.
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And that's what I've learned. I started to incorporate that into my life because
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in my early 20s, people used to tell me, focus on one thing, focus on one thing.
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And that's what I did. I did at first, you know, I just said,
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I'm just do music. I'm just do music. But you need money to do music.
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People understand that music is a business.
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It's not just, oh, I'm just going to, you know, do music.
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It's a business and you have to invest. And if you don't want to get in a bad
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contract and be a bonehead, then you're going to most likely be independent,
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you know, unless you get a good
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contract, which some people are blessed to get, but some people aren't.
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So some people may not want to be in a contract.
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I've realized I prefer freedom. I like to do what I want.
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You know, freedom is number one for me. I didn't know that in my early 20s because
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I thought that I couldn't do anything else because I was listening to other people.
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So anybody listening, like if you want to discover the things about yourself
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and other talents to either make an income or just as hobbies,
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there's nothing wrong with that.
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You know, I think that there's so much.
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Like constraints on society where
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people assume that because they're doing this that you
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have to do it you don't have to do what everybody's doing
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or because that that's what they know it's all they know you might can handle
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more things so that's just how I look at it and and that goes back to you know
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ignorance is bliss but it's not okay so find the time to chill out balance yourself out,
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get away from the news and stuff and anything else that's overwhelming on internet.
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And then also get on there and know what the heck's going on,
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you know, because you have to keep your head on the floor, but you have to know
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what's going on so you can be ready.
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Now, I want to hear from you. Have you ever experienced a moment where ignorance truly felt like bliss?
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Or maybe you've had the opposite experience where knowing the truth,
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even if it was painful, ultimately led to your growth.
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Share your stories with me. You know, I'll future you on a future episode and we could talk about it.
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But if you like the show, please leave a review, share, subscribe.
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It helps me grow. Let's the internet know, hey, people like her.
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And I'm out here to just challenge your perspective. That's what I do,
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challenge your perspective.
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So everybody stay safe out there and stay positive.
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Keep your head on a swivel and stay curious. All right. Peace. Be blessed.
